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They’re afraid of making another mistake so they put you on layaway and remove you off the market while giving themselves the option of some R&R on your time while not being in it emotionally and often physically.
They’re afraid that if they tell you the truth and you or they end it, that they’ll regret their decision and someone else will snap you up.
They either believe that what limited ‘resources’ they do have are enough or a lot, or they’re overwhelmed.
If it’s the former, they either have a lot of bravado or have a history of thinking that what they have to give is more than what it is, which means they’ll shut down any protests from you if you say otherwise.
That said, they’re with you for the wrong purpose – distracting them from or even helping them completely avoid their feelings or any fallout from the previous relationship. You help numb the pain but what you don’t realise is that it’s not gone. At least not the conscious sort that will allow them to contemplate their actions and connect the dots of their behaviour with what results. Commitment avoidance via maintaining emotional and/or legal ties elsewhere.